Victoria Pinder https://www.victoriapinder.com Bold Women and the Brainy Men who Love Them Sun, 19 Jan 2020 15:41:18 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.3.2 https://i1.wp.com/www.victoriapinder.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/Victoria-Pinder-Logo.png?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 Victoria Pinder https://www.victoriapinder.com 32 32 51145589 If you can please help… if everyone on this blog gave $5 this girl would have a forever family https://www.victoriapinder.com/if-you-can-please-help-if-everyone-on-this-blog-gave-5-this-girl-would-have-a-forever-family/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=if-you-can-please-help-if-everyone-on-this-blog-gave-5-this-girl-would-have-a-forever-family https://www.victoriapinder.com/if-you-can-please-help-if-everyone-on-this-blog-gave-5-this-girl-would-have-a-forever-family/#respond Sun, 19 Jan 2020 15:38:50 +0000 https://www.victoriapinder.com/?p=8870 Let met start this blog by stating in my family, I’m the total slacker. I see my little sister and I know I am definitely not doing nearly enough. Besides growing up she was the certified genius of the family, as an adult she has six children already, a full time job where she still seeks out advancement and recently earned herself a major promotion, she’s getting another masters and she serves on her school committee as an elected leader. There is nothing that stands in her way when she wants something. (Now I write books, never took any tests for genius levels to be certified, and I’m generally happy… But my sister is the amazing one today.)

My sister Sabrina first adopted her two boys years ago but you’d never guess and she hates to even mention that because they are her boys and she’s their mom. She had 4 natural girls, the younger girls in the picture above. So she’s already had experience blending her family. And you’d never know the boys were adopted as they all work together, whether it’s cleaning the house to do the chores or having an at home dance party where everyone takes turns as DJ.

All of this is background information. For Christmas she opened her home to take in an orphan for the holidays. She signed up to get a boy. At the last second everything fell apart and instead she took this Ukrainian orphan 13 year old girl. (The blonde girl.) Now this is where I’m going to ask for your help. We can’t change the world but we can help one person, and in this case it’s this girl.

After spending Christmas with her, they wanted to keep her forever. However international adoption is different than US adoption. And way more expensive. She hadn’t known this girl, but once she stayed in her house, she wants her to stay forever. This teenager’s parents were murdered. She lives in an orphanage. If she’s not adopted out soon she’s sent to a work camp and most of the orphan girls lives end horribly. My sister wants to bring this girl to Boston, send her to high school and be there for her. As you can see in the picture above, her daughters already want her there. (The boys want her there too, though they are not in the girly pink picture.)

The Ukrainian government doesn’t care if you want a teenager or an infant. The price is the same. The Ukrainian government wants $20,000 dollars for one of their children. So what’s stopping this girl from being with a family that wants to keep her is money. If you can give anything at all to help, it will speed up the process to get her out of the orphanage.

And the money is tax deductible as it’s all going to a company that specializes in foreign adoption costs… no money goes into anyone’s hands at all this way. So if you can help, please do… https://www.purecharity.com/importing-irina?fbclid=IwAR2WGSMlW8nyvmG9JFkjLepDre6dXPw-5qjgEH8mhgKoNKL2gTjdTlB2wfA

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Romance Writers of America and my 2 cents https://www.victoriapinder.com/romance-writers-of-america-and-my-2-cents/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=romance-writers-of-america-and-my-2-cents https://www.victoriapinder.com/romance-writers-of-america-and-my-2-cents/#comments Fri, 17 Jan 2020 13:56:14 +0000 https://www.victoriapinder.com/?p=8863 I want to start this statement with racism is WRONG.

I signed the petition for Courtney Milan because what happened to her was wrong. I don’t know her personally. ┬áBut the procedures should not be weaponized to quiet a voice that is pro-diversity.

I am also against micro-aggressions in any form. The closest I saw was when a member of one local group asked for a conference to not be on Yom Kippur, a High Holiday. As someone from Miami I get it’s like having a meeting on Good Friday when this good Catholic school girl was taught that was not the day for laughing… Jesus died. Yom Kippur is the day of asking their version of the same God for forgiveness of sins and that should be as respected as one of the 2 major Christian holidays. (They didn’t put the conference on Christmas or Easter.)

Diversity means we all get to learn new things. To me that’s awesome. I love learning. I also love to talk to just about anyone.

Now with that said, I was shocked Christmas eve when everything hit twitter. I’ve met the president-elect who changed the rules and didn’t have the qualifications to be president. He’s charming, full of himself and yeah I heard him state little lies that didn’t matter as he was funny. Do I believe he was wrong… heck yes.

But in some ways what’s great is that the racism was revealed to all of us. I now understand I need to vote for people willing to spearhead and I’ll do what I can to be part of a group that includes everyone. (In real life for politics I’m voting Andrew Yang because while I don’t agree with all his positions and don’t know the feasibility, I like people who listen and want to do what they believe is best. I like him and he has my vote… I had 20 candidates to choose from on the democratic field but I’ve always been centered and had tons of republican friends all my life. I also grew up in Boston which is basically democratic headquarters and as I taught government I can say 80% of us vote the way our parents voted and our peers. There was only one side growing up but I always found my die hard Texas republican friends and I agreed more than we disagreed on anything. So please don’t post political hate as I only have love for you and all my friends and fans, no matter your opinion.)

Now with all that said I need to talk about the positives of RWA. When Amazon wasn’t doing the math for my royalties right, RWA helped with a phone call. When Feelena Hopkins went to Amazon and claimed she owned the word ‘cocky’ and took down all books with the cocky name on it… RWA got those books back up in hours and represented the hurt authors in court… when people dream of being traditionally published, RWA connects people with the editors and agents… when I first wrote my first two manuscripts no one has ever read, it was at RWA I learned how horrible they were and how to be a better writer. I also moved from Florida, to Denver to Pittsburgh and I don’t know where I’ll be in 3 years next, BUT… I want to belong to that group too.

RWA is a national voice that romance authors can benefit from. I went to nationals every year. My first one I heard Nora Roberts talk about how the swimming pool for authors was always full and hard to navigate, I was mesmerized. I now have a group of friends where we go and have a great time while learning.

Anyhow I see dissolution talk happening and I refuse to sign that. I’m not giving up. Does nationals need fixing, YES! But I’m a wide eyed optimist who writes happily-ever-after. I refuse to be part of destruction. I’ll go to NINC this year probably instead for a national conference, but I’m voting to stay part of an organization and vote for the leaders who rebuild. If I can help, I will, though I don’t think I can fly off anywhere right now for long unless RWA is paying for child care.

I’ll end my two cents with love because I met so many great people at RWA through the years and I refuse to be angry all the time about everything. I’d rather be part of the solution where I leave the world better for my children to live in. So anyhow if you’re reading this, I hope you know I love talking to you and love learning from everyone. People are more alike than dis-alike.

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Woohoo Print Books are Returning https://www.victoriapinder.com/woohoo-print-books-are-returning/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=woohoo-print-books-are-returning https://www.victoriapinder.com/woohoo-print-books-are-returning/#respond Sun, 12 Jan 2020 19:43:26 +0000 https://www.victoriapinder.com/?p=8855
So in 2018 my print distribution went down and I meant to make a decision in 2019 on what to do. Life jumped in the way. First another baby. Then recovery. Then moving. And finding the time to sit for 72 hours or more on just one project, reading contracts, supplying material, getting print covers… I put it off.

But 2020 showed up and resolutions aren’t just words. I said print editions, foreign translation, more books are all on the list for things to get done. No more putting off needed things. I finally made the decision on print. Yeah. Not all are out yet, but within a few days all the sites should have my books again. So the first of the resolutions is on its way. On my end things are done. Now it’s just waiting for everything to upload and filter out. Quite a few people have asked me what happened to my print books.

So after the rebranding of last month, it was time to get the next step in order. I have a lot of books at this point, so it becomes a project. But I’m happy to finally deliver to my long waiting fans…

Also remember Legendary Rock Star is on preorder for 99 cents on all sites. I hope you check out my new series!

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